How to Heal a Broken Heart According to Personal Coach, Laura Benson

Getting over heartbreak is difficult for many reasons. For one, this is the person you had planned to spend forever with. You planned your life around this special person and envisioned your future together, but you now have to walk that path alone. However, what’s most frustrating is that there is no one-tap reset button you can press, and you are good to go. You have to face all your emotions after a breakup, both good and bad. How do you heal from heartbreak? Laura Benson, a psychologist and lifestyle coach, shares 4 tips to help you move on from a broken relationship/marriage.

Laura has a master’s in psychology. She is the founder of Mammoth Edge and Associates, a counseling firm that can help you discover your best self and live your best life.

Here are 4 tips to help you heal from heartbreak, as explained by Laura Benson:

● Avoid contact for some time (preferably 60 to 90 days)

This is someone you planned to spend your future with, and keeping in contact immediately after a breakup can make it hard to move on.

Laura explains that giving each other time to heal and experience life away from each other is best. This helps you see that there is more to life and that a broken marriage/relationship doesn’t have to define your whole life. In cases where kids are involved, Laura explains that while you do not have to keep the kids from the other party, you can still take a break where you minimize communication.

● Stop blaming yourself

“A relationship takes two people willing to work for what they have. However, once one person stops working, it is hard to save that relationship, and trying to know what really happened won’t help you repair the damage,” says Laura.

Rather than focusing on what went wrong, Laura advises approaching the situation from the point of view of someone who gave it their all, but it didn’t work out for one reason or another. This will help you heal faster.

● Don’t romanticize the past

It is easier to replay the good memories, especially if you didn’t want the relationship to end. Laura explains that in most cases, people tend to focus on the good times instead of seeing the whole picture, and as a result, you cling to these memories. She notes the importance of replaying all the good and bad memories, as it reminds you why the relationship needed to end.

● Be open to meeting new people

What do you plan to do with your life? Do you want to spend your remaining time alone, or do you want to try your luck at dating? These are questions to ask yourself after you have healed. When you are sure you want to meet someone new, get back on dating sites. But most importantly, it is good to have an open mind as it will help you find your way and be a better match.

“Heartbreaks are almost unavoidable,” says Laura. “But you don’t have to let that stop you from living your best life. Instead of seeing it as something terrible, use it as a chance to better yourself!”

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